I help couples and parents see the pattern they're stuck in — the one driving the same fight over and over — and actually change it, not just talk around it. That's Relational Life Therapy: naming what's happening between you in real time, not managing it from a distance.With couples, this looks like:Getting honest about what you're actually feeling, and why — not just what you're arguing about.Working through disagreement as a team, instead of it becoming a standoff.Staying connected through something as demanding as the IVF process, instead of drifting apart under the strain.Building habits — physical and mental — that support you both, not just one of you.With parents, the same pattern-work applies to your relationship with your teen: the reactivity that shows up before you mean it to, the pursuing or pulling back, the fight that's never really about the fight.I'm really good at helping with:Relational patterns — in your marriage and with your teenUnderstanding what's actually driving the conflict, not just the surface argumentStaying connected through something like fertility treatment or major life stressBuilding habits that support you both, physically and mentallyI won't hand you a script. I'll help you see your own pattern clearly enough to change it.Ready to get started? →

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is the frame I keep coming back to. It's built around naming the exact pattern two people are stuck in and interrupting it while it's happening, not analyzing it after the fact.A lot of that pattern started somewhere, long before you met your partner or had a kid of your own. That's where attachment styles and inner child work come in — getting at the wiring you picked up early, the stuff that's still quietly running the show.For couples specifically, I also draw on EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), which cares less about who's right in the argument and more about the bid for connection that got missed underneath it, again.CBT comes in when the thoughts themselves are the problem — the same worst-case story looping until you can't tell anymore if it's true or just familiar.NLP and hypnotherapy both work a layer below that, on the automatic stuff: the reaction that fires before you've decided anything. Useful when you already know what you want to change and logic alone hasn't gotten you there.Re-evaluation Counseling is simpler than all of that — structured space to actually be heard by someone trained to listen, not just wait their turn.And because none of this happens in a vacuum, I'll bring in metabolic testing and a real meal and movement plan when your body's part of what's wearing you down. Built around what you'll actually do, not a chart on a wall.I don't lead with any one of these. I lead with the pattern you're in, and reach for whatever actually fits it.whichever of these fits it.